A therapuetic healing technique-: Write a letter to anyone who harmed you in life, your greatest abuser or bully. Tell them how much they hurt you and all the things they took from you. Such as, your perfectly slim body if their abuse caused bad eating habits. All the jobs you couldn’t do to earn decent money you were entitled to in life. The health problems or depression they caused you, relationships that failed, through neediness, low self esteem, self destruction, and feelings of unworthiness. Write a letter to those working in social services if they ever wronged you, left you to struggle without payments, let you freeze, starve. Refused you a council home, which led to a higher rental property, or even living on the streets.

Write to the friend who let you down, the parent who ignored you and showed you very, little love. Tell each of them what you really think of them for ruining your happiness, body and peace of mind in many ways.

Think carefully about all the things you lost because of their actions, a home, possessions and all the things you could of had, don’t hold back, leave nothing out, say what you wished you’d said but were too afraid to.

Tell them your truth, pour your emotions onto the paper, get angry, cry, swear, however they made you feel, they deserve it. And you can end with, you were not perfect, you made the wrong choices, cruel, evil choices, but I can forgive you because I’m letting you go, I can move on because you no longer have any hold over me, not mentally or emotionally. I wish you no harm but this is where I say goodbye, you will never control me again.

Some people really can’t help exerting their power over others, to make themselves feel significant in this world, through their own suffering. That’s why so many wear the badge of authority, to feel self importance at your cost. But you are stronger and braver than they ever were, you rose above it, your a real life super hero, because you truly survived everything.

And now it’s time to heal, so write that letter, then burn it… and in your mental health, release and spiritual sense it has been sent, and they will feel it. Because this action, intent and relief on your part cuts the tie, the umbilical cord that held you to them all yout life, even when you were no longer living in their presence. You could cut all contact and run away to the other side of the world, but you still took them with you. Let them go, cut that invisable umbilical cord and it frees you both. As they say if you pick up a hot coal to throw at your abuser, it only burns your own hand.

They feel nothing and happily get on with their lives, abusing others while you continue to suffer. So nothing you do or feel is hurting them, but everything you feel about them continues to hurt you, and those bad feelings only attract more bad things, more bad people, and so many more bad experiences into your life. Making you feel disempowered, forever the victim when you truly are the hero in your own story. You are a survivor.

And one last thing, we have all lost loved ones and regret the things we didn’t say before they passed. Say it now, write them a letter, filled with love and any random thing, or question you wanted to say, or ask them and never got the chance. They are with you now, they can hear you, they know how much you miss and love them, and they want you to be happy.

The mind causes disease in the body, because there is dis-ease in mind, body and soul, so if you can heal the mind you will heal the body. That is why people lose weight after hypnosis or therapy. That is why my own M.E. chronic fatigue disappeared over night after 20 long suffering years.

So write that letter, pour your heart out, burn it so they will recieve it and hold it in their heart until you meet again. Then go live your life the way you were always meant to, and ‘the way‘ will become clear to you with the help of the universe through your newfound healing and the love of spirit.